One of the most stimulating and exciting aspects of writing blog posts is the dialogue that gets generated between bloggers.
Here's a great example. Sarah Molik's Finding the Confidence blog posted an entry today in response to my post yesterday. In her post, "Is Confidence of the Head or Heart?" she poses an essential question about acting upon a heart desire, and understanding how the mind must play a role in carrying this out.
I wholeheartedly agree.
And here's what we need to remember. The mind can play the role of saboteur or supporter. It can help us develop the confidence to take action. Or it can cut us off at the knees, immobilizing us.
"Mindfrick," short for mind friction, a term I heard at the seminar, is another name for saboteur. It's the voice inside of us based in fear of the unknown. Mindfrick thoughts and stories are non-supportive, designed to stop us out of an eternal need to protect.
I've recently realized that my mindfrick falls into 3 categories: critical; logical/analytical; and seductively soothing.
The critical voice tells me things like:
- Who the hell do you think you are to try this?
- You'll look stupid and make a fool of yourself.
- You'll get halfway and then give up.
- No one will want to publish your next book.
- You're never going to play in the big leagues.
You get the gist. I can go on and on, and you have your favorites too. My critical voice tends to be so blatant, and exaggerated, that I can often recognize it as mindfrick. On my good days, I blow it off, and substitute a supportive statement, or simply laugh and act in spite of. On my not so good days, I feel the sting of that negative thought and hesitate with self-doubt, or sometimes I simply stop.
My logical/analytical voice makes so much sense that it's hard to take any action contrary to it. It will tell me that " . . . based upon past experience, you probably shouldn't consider this;" or "Here's what your bank account says, so it's best not to invest in this . . .;" or my personal favorite - "You don't have all the facts or answers, so it's best not to try this until you have it ALL laid out." Again, on my good days, I tell myself that my logical thoughts reflect part of the truth, but not all of the available truths or realities.
My seductive soother speaks in a soft voice. It tells me things like:
- Why not enjoy what you have now? You've got everything you need. Just stay where you are at and you'll always be comfortable, and what's wrong with that?
- Go ahead, you deserve to eat the ice cream even if it's 10:30 pm. So what? You can exercise if off.
Our minds are wonderful things as long as we are in charge of them. We can't eliminate mindfrick. We can neutralize it when we pay attention and substitute positive, supportive statements and stories. Heck, the mind just makes this stuff up, and so can we, so why not tilt it in a positive way?
Such as . . . "I don't have to figure this all out myself;" "I'm worth this;" "I'm more capable than most to do this;" "People need and want this information;" "The Universe waits for me with full support." "I'm a quick learner;" "I've already created miracles in my life, so why not continue?"
I didn't say it was necessarily easy. Confidence comes from taking the first step (often the hardest). From that first step I believe we set into motion all sorts of Universal support that we can't even imagine. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.