Blame it on Oprah.
My schedule rarely allows me to watch Oprah's show. However I was home this past Friday and caught her show on "Sex 101." Guest sex expert, Dr. Laura Berman, recommends several action items designed to improve one's sex life. Of no surprise to us older folks - schedule sex!
Yes, spontaneity has it's place, mainly for the young, and new lovers flooded with Dopamined brains. (Although I do remember a time when my hubbie and I were in our late 30's/early 40's when a moment of passion hit us and we did it in the bathroom next to the family room where the kids were playing.) Apparently and realistically, for the rest of us, planning for intimacy creates the likelihood it will occur. Time to whip out the Blackberry now!
Putting some effort into the planning can also create a more desirable outcome. Dr. Berman recommends such things as removing Aunt Gilda's pictures from the bedroom, shaving legs if you are female, and my input for the guys - clear out the remote and other electronic gear.
It occurs to me (terribly obvious, isn't it?) that writing is like sex. I need to schedule it. How dull! I still harbor romantic notions of being a writer bursting with streams of imaginings at all times of day and night. Notebooks in every room of the house scribbled with brilliance. Sigh. I work a day job.
Now the challenge for me - to schedule writing/blogging in a way that doesn't twist me up. I quit blogging late last summer for a period of several months. Most of it had to do with the internal nagging that went on in my head about how I wasn't doing it often enough blah, blah, blah. I don't need another tyrant yelling at me for "fresh content," blogging gods be damned. I need a playmate. That's it! An internal writing "playmate" who encourages me with the notion that "schedule" can be flexible and light.
So there you have it - writing is like sex in several areas. We need to schedule it, set the tone, and it helps to have a playmate (even if it's only an inner playmate for us writers) to do it with. Oh . . . and a little abstinence can make the return to intimacy, and to writing, that much sweeter.
Setting sex aside for the moment . . . I invite readers/bloggers/writers to bare all and tell us: What works for you in terms of scheduling your writing?